Another weekend that included a family holiday, and the usual questions were asked...
"When exactly are you finishing the adoption?"
and a new one..
"Why are you adopting from China?"
So we explained everything once again, but it was probably the hardest time I have done this because I was a little pessimistic after what has been floating around about the lack of days of referrals this month. Everyone means well, but if you are not personally strapped onto the rollercoaster you just can't understand why there are thousands of orphans yet there are not enough to refer more than 2 days worth of LID's (which means at least another 12 months for a referral).
For that matter I am on the rollercoaster and I don't understand it, way too many variables but at least I understand the overview. You just have to try and stay positive and wait to find your child.
Nothing I say or do will make anything go faster, and I thing that is one of the hardest things about the wait. The other is the fact that you really have no information to help you cope with the wait or predict how long it will be.
We also answered the second question by explaining open adoptions and health / mental problems in domestic adoptions. Everyone immediately understood that one, and when it was explained agreed that they could not cope with a domestic adoption.
So now we go back to waiting.
Hopefully the next batch of referrals witll be a little bit more substantial, and thankfully it is a while before the next family gathering. Maybe by then we will have something a little bit more positive to tell them.
